Being Ignored

Alan Rayner
3 min readMar 17, 2021
Ptear Drops’ (Oil painting on board by Alan Rayner, 2000)

There’s nothing more upsetting

Than being ignored

When that receptive calling for what we need -

Food, water, knowledge, understanding, love -

To keep us alive

Dwelling in the seat of souls

Goes unheard

By blithe spirits

Certain of their prowess

Soaring above us all

With heads in the clouds

Excised from bodily belonging

In natural neighbourhood


Talking down to us

In superior tones

From outside

Like airy fairies

Lacking substance

While seeing only what’s made to measure

Unaware of how we feel and what we know inside

Our embodied inner vision

Which we could tell them if they asked

In return for their overarching view of where we are

In relationship to others


Only to plummet, wingless


Down to Earth

Leaving us all at sea

In abandoned ships

Where all that remains for us to say

In deep dismay

Too late now for them to hear


“I’m sorry, but I told you so

You’ve gone too far away from me

For me to help

You see

Within your selves”


We could have gone somewhere together

You and Me

If only you had heard

My silenced word

Which is no consolation at all

For having to bear witness

To your fall

Spreading havoc

Amongst us all

This piece, like much of my writing, can be read in at least two ways, depending on viewpoint. It could be read as an expression of my frustration, loneliness and bewilderment in having my personal learning experience disregarded, sidelined and/or contradicted. What does such a feeling of desolation mean with regard to my perception of reality? What can I do about it? Who or what do I place my faith in?

It can also be read as an expression of how it feels to have our human beingness as sentient life forms ignored by an attitude of mind that regards us as inferior objects whose vulnerabilities are unacceptable weaknesses that need to be overcome if we are to prosper. This attitude has become deeply culturally entrenched in conventional philosophy, science, theology, mathematics, language, education and politics. I have recognised how it arises through the mental isolation of self- or group-identity from natural neighbourhood and is reinforced by systems of axiomatic/definitive logic that either abstract or conflate tangible substance from or with intangible space and energy. It can be resolved very simply though the principle of natural inclusion — the mutual inclusion of intangible space and energy as receptive and responsive occurrences in all tangible phenomena. This principle brings inner and outer views of reality — neither of which alone are viable — co-creatively together instead of divorcing or conflating them. We can then — and only then — move on from the ‘Pride & Prejudice’ that brought about the downfall of Icarus, to the ‘Sense & Sensibility’ that enables us to live compassionately, understandingly and creatively together in natural companionship with one another and our habitat. My deliberate use of the seemingly intolerant and superior phrase ‘I told you so’ is intended to bring out the feeling of despair and last resort that arises when this possibility for reconciliation is ignored.

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Alan Rayner

Alan Rayner is an evolutionary ecologist, writer and artist, who is pioneering the philosophy of natural inclusion