Every living being has a unique, receptive-in-responsive self/awareness, which simultaneously both influences and is influenced by its contextual neighbourhood (https://admrayner.medium.com/self-in-neighbourhood-neighbourhood-in-self-the-comprehensive-situational-awareness-of-natural-ae62ede623bf ). Please bear this in mind whenever you glibly tell someone to ‘be objective’, ‘not take it personally’, ‘lose yourself’, ‘disregard ego’, ‘be your own boss’, ‘be independent’, ‘take control’, ‘stay positive’, ‘do anything you want’, ‘not let others affect you’, ‘be successful’ etc, etc.